그래도 괜찮아 그땐 나도 그랬어 : 청소년 바라기, 스쿨 폴리스 팀장의 고군분투기

김주엽

경찰생활25년,스쿨폴리스활동8년으로1,000여명의청소년과부모의고민을만났다.아이들의마음을더욱더잘이해하기위해시작한공부는상담심리학사학위취득을하게했으며,아이들이겪고있는문제를알리고자준비한강의는강사전문과정을수료함으로써수천회의강의로이어졌다.이는스쿨폴리스가가진한계를극복하고,지역사회를움직이는원동력이됐다.

도움이필요한곳이라면어디든달려가는‘김반장’을자처하고,도움을원하는사람과도움을줄수있는사람을연결하는밴드를만드는것은물론,발품을팔아각분야전문가를초빙해‘청소년봉사단체’를구성해지역네트워크를형성하는데이바지했다.

2012년지역최초스쿨폴리스로활동을시작해,2015년‘전국베스트스쿨폴리스’로선정,이듬해인2016년에는국민방송KTV휴먼다큐[철밥통은가라]에소개되면서지역유명인사가됐다.더불어2018년에는스쿨폴리스팀장으로운영하는팀이‘전국베스트스쿨폴리스팀’으로선정되면서경찰청에서도인정하는청소년전문가로손꼽힌다.

공식적으로는‘스쿨폴리스팀장’이었지만,늘새로운것에도전하고하고싶은것이많은그를주변인들은‘하고재비(뭐든하고싶어하는사람)’라고부른다.오늘도그는SNS에글을쓰며보다개선된청소년환경을꿈꾼다.

-프롤로그-

누구에게나방황기는있다·······································································4

1장괜찮아,나도그랬어

1.새벽형청소년들의어긋난선택·················································17
2.교육청에서근무하는경찰······························································22
3.난장판이된학교경찰의강의·····················································27
4.강의,사람의마음을움직이는무기········································32
5.말로만듣던일진짱과의만남·····················································37
6.희망앞에서멈춰버린도돌이표·················································42
7.아이들을위해빌린매스컴의힘···············································47

2장눈을들어하늘을봐

1.지치지않는힘,관심으로부터·····················································53
2.예방주사가된시행착오··································································58
3.놀라움을선물하는아이들······························································63
4.포기할수없는순수한소녀··························································68
5.언제나가까이에있는실마리······················································72
6.준우구하기대작전···············································································77
7.성장하게하는간절한꿈··································································83

3장너희가나쁜게아니야!

1.가출팸아지트가된주경이의원룸·········································91
2.소민이의동거와임신·········································································97
3.짙은화장을한여장소년정우················································103
4.쓰레기더미속에서찾은보석··················································110
5.징검다리역할을해준SNS·························································116
6.외톨이가된빨강머리소녀·······················································119
7.거리의간판을유심히보게된사연·····································124
8.유례없는사연이일어나는현장··············································128
9.더큰꽃을피우기위한흔들림················································132
10.모든출구는다른길로향하는입구··································135

4장너희는소중한존재야

1.스스로만드는불가능없는세상············································143
2.타잔이라불리는아이······································································147
3.학교까지난입한조직폭력배·····················································154
4.일생을따라다니는학교폭력···················································158
5.학교폭력브로커와의만남·························································163
6.청소년의사랑할자유어디까지··············································168
7.위기를버티게하는행복한가정············································174
8.자존감을키운엄마의힘·······························································178
9.존재자체로존중받아야할아이들······································183
10.무방비상태로벌어지는청소년들의성························188

5장너희는혼자가아니야!

1.아이들을안타깝게만드는부모들········································197
2.잘못된훈육으로가슴이멍든아이······································201
3.어린객기가불러일으킨참담한결말·································205
4.집단화되어가는학교폭력···························································211
5.잊어서는안될이유············································································216
6.성장통을겪는SPO(schoolpoliceofficer)··························221
7.내가학교를만들줄이야·································································227
8.십대들의둥지·························································································233
9.봉사로물든지역사회······································································238
10.나눔의방법을모르는사람들················································244

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아이하나를키우는데는마을전체가필요하다·············250

-부록1-
각자의길을찾은아이들·····································································255

-부록2-
사진으로보는스쿨폴리스·································································258

책속에서

아내에게이실직고하고잔소리들어가며설득끝에「전국노래자랑」에출연했다.경찰동료들은현수막을내거는가하면,백댄서도자청했다.돌이켜생각해보면무대울렁증이있는내가이토록방송출연에열정적이었던이유는단하나였다.그저아이들에게쉽게다가가기위해서.
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한번은반별강의후,한아이가나에게메시지를보냈다.“큰마음먹고신고하는것이니,제발도와주세요.”라고했다.아이는지속적인괴롭힘으로자살을생각할정도로힘들었다고했다.다행히학교측과공유해잘해결할수있었다.반별강의의긍정적효과였다.
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학교생활에흥미를잃은동수는어려운형편에가질수없는물건을훔치기시작했다.문제가생길때마다피부색이다른엄마가학교에오는것도극도로싫어했다.친구들에게놀림거리가되기싫었던것이다.
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그랬다.다영이는이제겨우고등학교2학년18세,소녀였다.그여린마음에얼마나큰상처를받았을까생각하니가슴이미어졌다.또포기하기엔너무어린나이다.아이를위해뭐라도해야겠다는마음이솟구쳤다.나쁜아이라고손가락질하고뒷짐지고있기보다우리어른들이나서야한다는생각이들었다.
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