Becoming Happier

Becoming Happier

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당신은 행복해질 권리가 있다
법륜 스님은 지난 30년 동안 대한민국은 물론 세계 115개 도시의 강연장과 길 위에서 수많은 사람들을 만나왔다. 그들은 법륜 스님에게 결혼은 어떻게 해야 하는지, 자식은 어떻게 키워야 하는지, 직장생활은 어떻게 해야 하는지, 사회적 갈등과 세상의 불평등은 어떻게 해결해야 하는지 묻는다. 일견 모두 다른 질문 같지만 자세히 들여다보면 문제는 결국 ‘행복’이다.
Beoming Happier은 그 간절한 물음에 대한 응답이다. 수많은 사람들이 법륜 스님에게 던진 질문과 그 답변 중 가장 많은 공감과 뜨거운 호응을 얻었던 내용을 엄선한 행복 안내서인 셈이다. 온전한 행복은 어디에서 오는가에 대해 집중적으로 이야기하고 있으며, 개인의 마음가짐을 강조했던 기존 저서와는 달리 행복을 이끄는 또 다른 바퀴인 사회문제도 함께 다루고 있다.
그렇다면 법륜 스님이 말하는 행복해지는 길이란 과연 무엇일까. 그는 우리가 괴로움에서 벗어나 온전히 행복해지기 위해서는 사물의 전모를 보는 통찰력을 키우고, 행복하지 못한 원인을 분명히 알 때 비로소 문제해결의 길도 열린다고 말한다. 이처럼 냉정하지만 따뜻하고 단순하지만 명쾌한 법륜 스님의 행복론은 행복해지고 싶지만 길을 몰라 헤매는 이들에게 보탬이 되어준다.
이 책은 현실과 동떨어진 공허하고 허황된 이야기는 제쳐 두고 오직 삶의 현장에서 일어나는 구체적인 괴로움을 어떻게 해결할 것인가에 초점을 두고 있다. 그러다보니 에둘러 표현하지 않고 정곡을 찌르는 화법이 다소 직설적으로 느껴질지도 모른다. 그러나 어떤 질문에도 질문자의 처지를 고려하면서 따뜻한 마음과 해법을 담아 이야기한다는 점에서 그 어떤 친절한 말보다 위안을 준다.

You Have the Right to Be Happy
During the past 30 years, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim has met a great number of people in the street and at Dharma Q&As all throughout Korea, as well as in 115 cities around the world. People ask him questions on various matters such
as how to get married, how to raise children, how to do well at work, and how to resolve social injustice and inequality in the world. At first glance, they appear to be different questions, but if you look closely, they are all ultimately about how to be happy.

Becoming Happier is the response to this most common of questions. It is basically a guidebook to happiness, composed of carefully-selected content from the many conversations Ven. Pomnyun Sunim has had, especially those that garnered the most empathy and enthusiasm. The book focuses on the question of where true happiness comes from, and unlike existing books that only focus on cultivating your mindset as an individual, Becoming Happier also addresses social issues.

Then, what is the path to happiness according to Ven. Pomnyun Sunim? He says that in order to free ourselves from suffering and become truly happy, we need to gain insight and see the full picture. His point is that when we clearly know the cause of our unhappiness, we can find a way to solve the problem. This logic behind happiness is objective yet heartwarming and simple yet clear and can help all those who want to be happy but feel lost because they do not know the way.

Instead of grand theories or idealistic concepts detached from real life, Becoming Happier is a book that explains how to solve specific problems that cause us suffering in our daily lives. As a result, Ven. Pomnyun Sunim’s remarks are direct, even blunt, as they go into the heart of the matter. Nevertheless, there is no doubt that Ven. Pomnyun Sunim speaks with compassion, which makes his advice not only specialized to the individual questioner’s circumstances but also truly comforting.
저자

법륜

Ven.PomnyunSunimisapeaceactivistwhodeliversmessagesofpeaceandreconciliation,ahumanitarianactivistwhoprovidesvariousformsofaidtodevelopingcountries,athinkerwhoispavingthewaytowardanewalternativecivilization,andanawakenedpractitioner.In1988,hefoundedtheJungtoSociety,acommunityofpractitionerswhovowedtofreethemselvesfromsufferinganddevotethemselvestoservingothersandtheworldbyleadingthelifeofabodhisattva.
Ven.PomnyunSunim’sDharmatalksareclearandstraightforward.HehasanexceptionalabilitytoexplaintheBuddha’steachingsinsimple,contemporarylanguage.Asaresult,hisspokenandwrittenmessagesgostraighttotheheartofthematterandenablepeopletoredirecttheireyesinwardandself-reflect.Furthermore,theesotericcontentofBuddhistsutrascometolifethroughhiswisdom,intuition,andinsight.
AsofApril2022,YouTubevideosofSumin’sDharmatalkshavehadmorethan1.7billionviews.HeshareshiswisdomwiththegeneralpubliconhowtofreethemselvesfromsufferingandhowtobecomehappythroughhisDharmaQ&AsandtheHappinessSchoolprogram.Todate,hehasdeliveredmorethan12,000DharmaQ&AsinSouthKoreaandabout300DharmaQ&Asinothercountriesaroundtheworld,includingthe115talkshegaveduringhisglobaltourin2014.Also,sincetheCovid-19pandemicbeganin2020,Ven.PomnyunSunimhasbeeninteractingwithhundredsofthousandsofpeoplethroughhisweeklyonlineDharmaQ&AsinKorean,andbi-weeklytalksinEnglish.(Seehiswebsite:https://pomnyun.com/)
Amongthemorethan50booksVen.PomnyunSunimhaspublishedinKoreansofar,themostnotableareThingsAreGoodasTheyAreNow,Buddha,andCommentaryontheDiamondSutra.Hisbooksencompassawiderangeofsubjects.Hisbooks,WordsofWisdomforNewlyweds,BecomingHappier,andIAmaDecentPerson,provideinsightfuladvicetoyoungpeople.LessonsforLifeisaguidebookforpeoplelivinginmodernsociety.Prayer:LettingGoisamanualforlaypractitioners.PracticeGuidebookforTeachersimpartswisdomtoteachers.TheRiverofLifeFlowsdiscussesanalternativesolutiontotheenvironmentalproblem.AndWhyIsUnificationNecessary?offersavisionforpeaceandunificationontheKoreanpeninsula.
Someofthesebookshavebeentranslatedintootherlanguages,suchasEnglish,French,Thai,Japanese,Chinese,andVietnamese.EightbookshavebeentranslatedintoEnglish,includingAwakening,TrueFreedom,Prayer,andMonk’sReplytoEverydayProblems,tolistafew.SixbookshavebeentranslatedintoChinese,3booksintoThai,2booksintoJapanese,2booksintoVietnamese,and1bookintoFrench.AmongthefewbooksthatweretranslatedintomultiplelanguagesisMyHappyWaytoWork,whichwastranslatedintoThai,Chinese,Japanese,andVietnamese.AnotherisBecomingHappier,whichhasEnglish,Vietnamese,andJapaneseversions.Basedontheideathatpracticeattheindividuallevelgoeshandinhandwithsocialengagement,Ven.PomnyunSunimhasengagedinextensivepeaceinitiativesforvariouscausesincludingapeacefulunificationoftheKoreanPeninsula,refugeesupport,internationalreliefefforts,andinterfaithreconciliationandcooperation.Throughouttheyears,hehasreceivednumerousawardsinrecognitionofhisefforts.In2002,hereceivedtheRamonMagsaysayAwardforPeaceandInternationalUnderstanding,andhewaspresentedwiththe37thNiwanoPeacePrizein2021.

목차

PREFACE
YouHavetheRighttoBeHappyRegardlessofYourLifeSituation

Part01WhyDoesn’tLifeTurnOuttheWayWeWantItto?
ChoiceandSelf-Contradiction/BetweentheIdealandtheReal/WalkOutofthePrisonoftheFalseSenseofSelf/TheSecrettoHappiness/SettinganAspirationAfterLettingGoofGreed/TimeLagBetweentheCauseandtheEffect

Part02FeelingsAreFormedHabits
FreedomfromLikesandDislikes/Anger,theInnerFuseThatWeOurselvesIgnite/NeitherSuppressingnorVentingAnger:AThirdPath/WhenFeelingIndignantAboutNotHavingRetortedtoWhatSomeoneSaid/TurningOldWoundsintoLifeAssets/RegretIsClingingontoPastMistakes/AnxietyIstheResultofanObsessionwiththeFuture/SuperiorityComplexesandInferiorityComplexesComefromtheSamePlace/FeelingsArise,Stay,Change,andDisappear/FormedHabitsCanBeChanged

Part03HowtoLivewithPeopleWhoHaveDifferentOpinionsfromYours
AllConflictsStemfromRelationships/AGoodPersonVersusaBadPerson/NoOneHasEverythinginThisWorld/ConditionsforaHappyMarriage/AreYouLivingaGoodLifeoraLifeThatLooksGoodtoOthers?/TheBossWhoTeachesYoutheMiddleWay/MostRelationshipsAreBasedonSelfishness/Give-and-TakeIsaTransaction,NotLove/LifeWillFeelEmptyIfYouLivewithaSenseofResponsibility/DependenceistheSeedofResentment/StopInterferinginOtherPeople’sLives/AlltheTreesTogetherMakeaForest

Part04DoNotBuildYourHappinessonOtherPeople'sMisfortune
WhatIsTrueSuccess?/DoNotBuildYourHappinessonOtherPeople’sMisfortune/DesireIsLikeaBurningLog/ThreeLevelsofNeeds:Need,Desire,andGreed/TheIndividualIstheSeedandSocietyIstheField/WhenTwoHuntersCatchThreeRabbits/BecomeanExampleFirstBeforeCriticizingOthers/HowtoBeHappyandBenefitOthersattheSameTime

Part05PracticeBeingHappierTodayThanYesterday
LettingGoofJudgments/Insightfulness,theWisdomofSeeingtheWhole/TheChoiceetweenConflictEscalationandMutualBenefit/TheMeritofComfortingOthers/DifferentLevelsofLove/HappinessLiesinDoingSomethingFunandRewarding/HowtoOrganizeYourTimetoLiveHappily/WeCanChoosetoBeHappyatAnyMoment/AbouttheAuthor

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“스님,온전한행복은어디에서오나요?”
“어떤삶을살고있더라도당신은행복해질권리가있습니다.
그러나남의불행위에내행복을쌓지는마세요!”
행복해지고싶지만길을몰라헤매는당신에게삶의나침반이되어줄책
냉정하지만따뜻하고,단순하지만명쾌한법륜스님의행복안내서

삶에지치고,관계에상처받고,부조리한세상에고통받는이들에게인생의길잡이가되어줄한권의책이출간되었다.지금까지저자가세상에내놓은책들이주로즉문즉설을통해질문자들과나눈인생상담내용을주제별로정리한것이었다면,이책은온전한행복은어디에서오는가에대해집중적으로이야기하고있다.또한지금까지는수행차원에서개인이가져야할마음가짐을주로강조했다면이책에서는행복의수레를끄는또다른바퀴인사회문제도함께다루고있다.결국개인의마음(씨앗)과사회적조건(밭)을함께가꿔야온전하게행복해질수있기때문이다.저자의행복론이라할수있는이책의전반부에서는무의식속에잠재된인간의심리와욕구,관계맺기에서오는갈등과같은개인적문제를,그리고후반부에서는사는게바쁘다거나직면한현실이불편하다는이유로애써외면해왔던사회의구조적모순까지우리의행복을방해하는요소들을전체적으로분석하고그에대한지혜로운해법을들려준다.

냉정하지만따뜻하고단순하지만명쾌한법륜스님의행복론을읽다보면내안에도사리고있던수많은불합리한신념과고정관념이깨지면서나와세상을객관적으로바라볼수있게된다.따라서이책은‘자기’라는울타리와한계를훌쩍뛰어넘어내삶의주인이자이세상의주인으로살고자하는이들에게최고의선물이될것이다.

Publisher'sReview
“Sunim,wheredoestruehappinesscomefrom?”
“Nomatterwhatkindoflifeyouareleading,youhavetherighttobehappy.
Butdonotbuildyourhappinessonotherpeople'smisfortune!"

Thisbookwillbecomeacompassinlifeforthosewhowanttobehappybutdonotknowtheway.

Anobjectivebutwarm,simpleyetclearguidetohappinessbyPomnyunSunim.

Abookhasbeenpublishedthatwillguidethelivesofthosewhoaretiredoflife,hurtinrelationships,andsufferfromtheirrationalitiesoftheworld.Theentirebookisfocusedonthetopicofwheretruehappinesscomesfrom.Also,whileinotherbooksbyVen.PomnyunSunimthefocushasbeenonindividualpractice,thisbookalsodealswithsocialissues,theotherwheelthatsupportsthecartofhappiness.It’sbecausetheindividualmind(seed)andsocialconditions(field)mustbecultivatedtogethertoachievecompletehappiness.Thefirsthalfofthisbook,whichincludestheauthor'stheoryofhappiness,dealswithpersonalproblemssuchashumanpsychologyanddesireshiddeninthesubconsciousandconflictsarisingfromrelationships.Thesecondhalfofthebookexpandsintothestructuralcontradictionsinsocietythatwehavebeentryingtoignorebecausewearebusyorbecauseitmakesusuncomfortable.Italsoprovidesacomprehensiveanalysisofthefactorsthathinderourhappinessandoffersawisesolution.

Readingtheobjectiveyetheartwarming,simpleyetcleartheoryofhappinessbyPomnyunSunimhelpsusbreakthemanyirrationalbeliefsandstereotypeslurkinginourminds,whichwillallowustolookatourselvesandtheworldmoreobjectively.Thisbookwillbethebestgiftforthosewhowanttoliveasthemasteroftheirownlifeandthemasteroftheworld,overcomingtheboundariesandlimitationsofthe"self."

‘왜내삶은원하는대로되지않을까?’
‘왜대부분의관계는우리를힘들게하는가?’
‘왜세상은이토록불공평한가?’
“Whydoesn’tmylifegothewayIwant?”
“Whydorelationshipsmakeussuffer?”
“Whyistheworldsounfair?”

이상과현실사이에서방황하고있는젊은이의하소연에서부터좋은부모와좋은환경을만나지못해억울하다는토로,회사생활이너무괴롭다는신입사원의울먹임그리고불공평한세상에대한원망과테러와분쟁에대한구글직원의질문까지행복에목마른사람들의수만가지질문에스님은어떤해법을내놓고있을까?
WhatkindofanswerdoesVenPomnyunSunimoffertotheendlessquestionsfrompeoplewhoarethirstyforhappiness?Thesequestionscomefromyoungpeoplecaughtbetweentheiridealsandreality,theembitteredpeoplewhogroanabouttheunfairnessofnotbeingabletobeborntogoodparentsandberaisedinagoodenvironment,thetearfulnewemployeewhocomplainsthatcompanylifeistoodifficult,thosewhoarefullofresentmentabouttheinjusticeintheworld,andevenaGoogleemployeewhoisconcernedaboutterrorismandconflict.

“제가많은분들의질문에해답을드리는것같지만,사실은그렇지않습니다.다른관점에서한번살펴보라고말하는것뿐이에요.앞면만보는사람에게‘뒷면은어때요?’라고묻고,이쪽만보는사람에게‘저쪽면은어때요?’라고묻고,윗면만보는사람에게‘아랫면은어때요?’하고묻는것뿐입니다.어느한쪽만을바라보며움켜쥐고있던것을놓음으로써자기가문제삼던것이문제가안된다는것을알게되는거예요.사물의전모를볼줄아는지혜가생기면그동안갖고있던많은고뇌들이저절로없어집니다.마치어두운방에등불을켜면어둠이사라지는것처럼말이에요.”
“ItseemsthatIprovideanswerstopeople’squestions,butthat’snottrue.I'mjusttellingthemtoviewtheirproblemfromadifferentangle.AllIdoissuggesttoapersonwhoonlyseesthefrontside,‘Whydon’tyoutakealookatthebackside?’andsaytoapersonwhoonlyseesthisside,‘Whydon'tyoutakealookatthatside?’andadviseapersonwhoonlyseesthetop,‘Whydon’tyoutakealookatthebottom?’Bylettinggoofwhatyouwereclingingtowhileonlylookingatoneside,youcometorealizethatwhatyouthoughtwasaproblemisnotactuallyaproblem.Mostofyouranguishwillnaturallydisappearwhenyoudevelopthisinsight.It'ssimilartoturningonalightinadarkroom,whichmakesthedarknessdisappearrightaway.”

이책에서저자는우리가괴로움에서벗어나온전히행복해지기위해서는사물의전모를보는통찰력을키워야한다고말한다.즉‘나’라는울타리에서벗어나다양한관점에서사물을바라보고생각하는습관을길러야근본적으로괴로움을해결할수있다는것이다.그러기위해서저자는지금까지우리가행복으로가는고속도로라고고집스럽게붙잡고있던고정관념과전제를내려놓는것에서부터시작해보자고제안한다.
Accordingtotheauthorofthisbook,inordertoendsufferingandachievecompletehappiness,wemustdevelopourinsight,whichenablesustoseethewholepicture.Inotherwords,onlybybreakingawayfromtheboundariesof“I”anddevelopingthehabitofthinkingandseeingthingsfrommultipleperspectivescanwefreeourselvesfromtherootofsuffering.Tomakethispossible,theauthoradvisesustobeginbylettinggoofthestereotypesandassumptionsthatwehavebeenstubbornlyholdingonto,thinkingtheywerethefastestwaytoreachinghappiness.

스님,온전한행복은어디에서오나요?
행복에목마른수백만독자들의삶을바꾼인생의지혜
Sunim,wheredoestruehappinesscomefrom?
Thewisdomthathaschangedthelivesofmillionsofreaderswhothirstforhappiness

평면에서는두점사이의최단거리를딱하나밖에그을수없다는것이상식이자공리다.하지만둥근지구본을놓고보면한점에서다른한점으로가는최단거리는수없이많다.평면이라는전제가사라지면최단거리는무수히많아진다.우리삶도마찬가지여서행복의전제조건을정해놓고그기준에맞춰행복하려고애쓰면그방법밖에없는것처럼보지만이전제를내려놓는순간행복으로가는수많은길이열린다.
Itisbothcommonsenseandamathematicalaxiomthatonlyoneshortestpathcanbedrawnbetw